Self Awareness

Old

The other day I was having a conversation with somebody who was in their early twenties. We were talking about music, and I mentioned some currently-popular artists, and casually said, “…and it’s funny that I like them so much, because I’m old….

Family, Society

Birthday

Today used to be my birthday. Last year, that changed, and I no longer recognize January 13th as anything other than another day. That’s actually not entirely true. January 13th is a heavy day for me, it’s one day after my daughter, Chloe, died….

Family

Chloe

Today marks one year since my daughter died. Just writing that sentence is devastating. I miss her terribly. This last year feels like the shortest year of my life, as well as the longest. I know that is not possible, and time flows on the way it always does, but I remember it like it happened this morning, and yet in some ways it seems so very long ago….

Society

Scammers

Today one of our employees got scammed, and they used my name to do it. I’m heartbroken for her, and feel so violated personally even though I had no part of it. Apparently the scam of impersonating “the boss” and asking employees to buy gift cards is a thing….

Mindfulness

Tolerance

One of the (many) shortcomings that we humans have is always wanting more. Particularly in an absolute capitalistic society, the desire for more is ever-present, and the finish line never arrives, unless we are very intentional about developing tolerance….

Society

JOMO

If you have spent any amount of time online, you have probably seen somebody mention FOMO… Fear Of Missing Out. It’s that terrible, nagging instinct that if you don’t check your Twitter or Instagram, you are going to miss something….

Family, Society

Love

It’s amazing how something as basic as the premise of love can cause so much suffering. I use the term ‘basic’ here as in a base feeling, not as something simple. I think about this a lot particular as it relates to my children; all children, really….

Self Awareness

Creation

I’ve often said that I would prefer to design and plant a garden than maintain one. For me, the joy is in the creation, in the building, in the discovery and in the newness. I know not everybody is that way, and that is good, for the builder and the tender need each other….

Overexcitability

Overexcitability

Are you familiar with the works and theories of Kazimierz Dabrowski? Dabrowski was a Polish psychologist, psychiatrist, and physician, and is most popularly known for his theory of “positive disintegration”, which includes, among other things, the premise of overexcitability, particularly as it relates to gifted children….

Health

Flavor

It’s somewhat alarming to take a bite of something and not be able to taste it, yet that is exactly what happened to me earlier today. I was trying a new batch of gummies that we made at work, and while they are usually very flavorful, I couldn’t taste a thing….

Mindfulness, Zen

Heart

Last year I discovered the writings of Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh from The Marginalian, the blog of Maria Popova. The first book of his that I read is called How To Love, and it’s a very easy read. Each page is essentially its own subject, so it’s easy to read for a short time or a long time….

Mindfulness, Ontology

Happiness

I recently read a post by somebody who said that there are two things you need to be happy: purpose and pleasure. I agree, those two are a part of the equation, but I think they missed something very important….